Saturday, May 9, 2009

Happy Mom's Day

A tribute to all "Moms" everywhere. Motherhood is the most difficult job in the world. I know that many of you are moms. You are probably (hopefully) as emotionally attached to your children as I am.

As a high school teacher, I see a lot of kids making poor decisions. Most of them have parents who are clueless. I want to reinforce the fact that involvement is okay. Your children need you. Don't think for a moment that they are "over" you. They might act like it at times.

I have two teenage girls that are amazing. We are very involved. They are very successful in school things like National Honor Society, Junior Symphony, etc. They make honor roll. Yes. I push that. I don't care if they spill their milk. I don't care if they paint their walls black. Sometimes their clothing selections are "interesting" to say the least. I let them make most of these decisions. Most of all, I want them to do the best they can.

As for me? I feel uncomfortable having a day to honor my mothering abilties. I didn't do everything right. I went by intuition, gut instinct and love. I had and still have a less than immaculate house. I don't care. I have great kids. I made lots of mistakes.

I was afraid to become a parent. I was a terrible teenager. I was a rebel against conformity. I was horrible to my mother. She was hurt by my rebelling and I used it to my advantage. I still regret that and wish I could make it up to her. She is gone now. I thought I would have time to explain some of the things that were going on back then.

I hate conformity. I would discourage my children from wearing Abercrombie, Hollister, etc. Many of my students wear these things emblazoned upon their t-shirts to be part of the "in-crowd". I don't have to discourage my kids. They refuse to wear it! (Ha ha!)

Duh. Hollister, California is not a beach town. It is in the central valley.

Marketing is everything.


Kids. Be yourselves. Mothers, believe in yourselves, your children; Think positive. They have unique talents. Do not belittle art.

I am thankful that my kids are amazing! Happy Mother's Day to all! If you're not a Mom, give one a hug from me!

Okay.

6 comments:

jeannette stgermain said...

Neetzy,
just wrote a post about love - we are all imperfect in that, but the thing that is important is that we work with what we have:).
I am an individualist myself, and I encouraged my kids (like you) to be their own person and not to follow the crowd.
Maybe a few years later, when you see what awesome adults they have become, you can see more of the influence you had in their lives! Enjoy your Mothers Day now your kids are still around!!!

neetzy said...

Thanks Jeannette,

I think Imperfection is what makes us interesting. My kids are awesome.

I just reread my post. It took me a while to find an appropriate picture. I wasn't allowed to download the first one I selected. I was hoping that what I read was not too preachy. Some times I go off a little.

I'm a little too opinionated at times... another imperfection!

Shazza said...

Hey Neetzy - Happy Mothers Day to you! Love ya!

neetzy said...

Shazza,

Happy Mother's Day to you too! Wow your little boy is a college graduate! Whoo hoo.

Poetikat said...

Happy Belated Mother's Day to you, Neetzy! Your children are a real credit to you.

Kat

neetzy said...

Thanks Poetikat,

This post was a little too ranty. I get that way and I apologize, but thanks for reading anyway!